Talking to Kids about the Economic Crisis
Don’t be afraid to talk to your kids about money, especially as the December holidays approach.
November, 2008
The Holidays are upon us and we may not be able to fulfill our kids’ holiday wishes this year. Everyone is aware of the country’s current economic crisis. It’s the worse since the Great Depression. Here in the Seattle area, we have been hit hard. Even if you have not personally suffered from the economic downturn, you likely know people who have, hear people talking, and the radio, TV and news headlines let you know. While the cost of goods is rising, pay is not. Friends and neighbors have been laid off. Many are having trouble paying their mortgage, paying bills, selling property or getting a mortgage. Insurance benefits are decreasing while premiums are on the rise. Our local bank is the largest in US history to go under. More Washingtonians are without healthcare benefits. And psychiatric facilities are closing their doors, leaving citizens without necessary care and sometimes without homes.
What do you children know about what is going on in the country? How did they hear about it? Parents are asking me frequently -- What, if anything, they should tell their children about the current economic crisis in the US? Please talk to your kids! How will they learn to be financially responsible if we don’t talk to them? They are hearing about it from other people and places, so we must talk to them, reassure them, and use this as a learning experience for our children. The key is to keep it simple and concrete for younger children, and involve kids in budgeting and pro-active activities. But above all, be calm, confident and optimistic in your communications with children of all ages so that they are assured and hopeful about the family situation and the future. (If your situation is so dire or your fears are so strong that you cannot communicate calmly and optimistically to your kids, you may want to consider reaching out to a friend or professional for help.)
What does it mean to be concrete? Kids under age 8 to 9 think in concrete, black and white and literate terms. You want to keep your information simple and straightforward. Don’t try to explain the stock market or political theories – stick to concepts like right now everyone is having to spend less money, but families, banks and stores and the President are doing things to make it better soon. If your child is worried about your job, or basic necessities, reassure them that you will take care of them and that this is temporary. Older children can process more information and teens will usually have more specific questions, ideas, and concerns. Since teenagers are able to think abstractly, allow your teen’s maturity level to guide you in information that you share. While a teenager may be able to understand adult concepts, they typically don’t yet have the emotional maturity to handle intense information and can feel overwhelmed quickly.
Are your kids unusually stressed out by the crisis? Talk to them, answering questions at their level, and ask them how they feel. Some signs that they may be overly stressed are persistent changes in sleeping, eating, mood and behavior. These may be times to ask for help from a teacher, school counselor or private therapist.
Do talk to your kids about your budget and involve them in budgeting, appropriately. Kids often enjoy helping to create food shopping lists and carrying them out. This is a great tool for reinforcing math and organizational skills, and also teaching the life skills of budgeting. The trick is to create a list within the budget and to stick to the list. This can lead into another important life skill about identifying necessities versus luxury items and modeling savvy shopping sills and saving for luxury items. In terms of saving money in the home, this is a great opportunity to reinforce energy and water conservation, as well as the eco-anthem “Reduce, Reuse, and Recycle.” Here’s a great chance to teach kids home arts and repair (or learn them together!) – Cooking, sewing, knitting, basic home repair, auto maintenance, etc. What an opportunity to save money by involving kids in home care and cleaning! Have a clean time together teaching that cleaning is a way of caring for things, making them last longer and saving money!
With the holidays coming, this is an opportunity to remind, teach and focus on the meaning of the holidays rather than material gifts, not matter if you celebrate the holidays spiritually, socially, or both. Consider talking to your family and kids about giving homemade gifts or certificates rather than buying gifts. Consider opting out of expensive, high tech toys and faddish toys this season and enjoy some more simple and meaningful family time. I will go out on a limb and suggest you turn off your cable/satellite TV and just stick to family movies.
Take the opportunity for you and your kids to volunteer. You can try anything from volunteering time at an established charity or just do something to help out a neighbor in need, such as cook them a meal or do some yard work. This will most likely bring a warm feeling to all, and help teach your children empathy for others.
Dr. Jolynn-Marie Wagner is a Psychologist practicing in Woodinville, Washington and specializing in treating children. You can reach her at info@redwoodpsych.com.
What is Asperger’s Syndrome?
An Introduction
Asperger’s Syndrome (AS), also referred to as High Functioning Autism, is a developmental disorder that affects approximately 3-5% of the population according to available research. It has recently received much attention in the media and mental health communities, which has many parents asking questions and concerned about their children – but what is Asperger’s? Like many developmental syndromes, there is a list of "core" symptoms that are associated with AS, but each child may manifest a somewhat unique set of symptoms, including idiosyncratic symptoms. AS is an autistic spectrum disorder, and falls on the upper end of the continuum, hence the name High Functioning Autism. Those features thought to be "core" impairments in AS include social impairment, stereotypical behaviors, interests and activities, subtle to more pronounced language peculiarities, impairments of nonverbal communication, and motor problems. Other symptoms associated with AS are mood instability and mood disorders, concrete, back and white thinking, rigidity, inflexibility, sensory integration difficulties, attentional problems, oppositional behaviors, high IQ or "splinter skills," and learning difficulties. So what does all this mean? In truth, it means something different for each child. However, examples of some of the symptoms may shed light on the process in AS.
Social impairments may include: difficulties making and keeping friends, lack of age-appropriate friendships, lack of adherence or understanding of social norms, manners, and rules, social disinterest or aloofness, lack of sharing emotional experiences or interests with others, impaired use and understanding of non-verbal communication, and lack of empathy or emotional reciprocity. Many experts in the area of AS believe that this spectrum of social impairment seen in AS is the "core deficit" or defining characteristic of AS. AS children may be able to overcome other challenges but the social world remains a mystery to them that they attempt to negotiate it haphazardly, not understanding the responses that the receive from others. Other children or adults may perceive an AS child to be willfully rude or belligerent when the child truly does not know how to behave in social situations without training and cues from a familiar person. It is then critical for those adults who work with AS children to be educated not only about AS, but also about how to best intervene with that individual child.
Stereotypical behaviors, interests and activities vary greatly among children with AS. Some have keen, almost obsessive interests in things such as trains, cars, boats, a certain TV show, music, certain series of books, a certain sport, or an activity such as playing a sport or play theme. Stereotypic behaviors can include things such as unusual, repetitive movements such as hand flapping or a facial tic. It is not clear why this set of symptoms manifest – some experts believe that at least some of the stereotypic behaviors are driven by anxiety. It is important to determine to cause or motivation for each child’s stereotypic behavior so that interventions to address or reduce them are planned appropriately.
Language peculiarities include use and understanding of language. Some children with AS display unusual prosody (intonation) in speech, unusual voice inflection, peculiar voice characteristics, and sometimes mildly delayed early speech. While children with AS appear to have good language skills, we often find that these skills are superficial and there are underlying impairments of language, especially social language. AS children often to not understand the pragmatics of language, innuendo, jokes, tone of voice, and abstract language such as metaphor. It is important to understand each child’s language abilities in order to intervene at a level of communication that is appropriate.
Nonverbal communication is typical difficult for children with AS. They have difficulty reading body language such as facial expression, gestures, and a person’s posture. In other words, someone may clearly be angry from their facial expression and body language, but an AS child may not pick up on all or any or those cues. Also part of nonverbal communication is the concept of body space and body boundaries and eye contact. Children with AS often use limited eye contact and tend to be too close or too far away from others, not able to establish body boundaries that meet the needs of others. Being aware of each child’s level of nonverbal communication is key to helping them communicate better.
Motor problems are sometimes found in AS. Children can manifest either fine (small) or gross (large) motor difficulties. AS children may be clumsy, uncoordinated, have an unstable gait, or have difficulty with paper and pencil skills.
Concrete, back and white thinking, rigidity, and inflexibility are both emotional and cognitive characteristics of many AS children. Adherence to routine and inability to handle transition times are a hallmark of this impairment. However, children may have more subtle difficulty such as being inflexible in their thinking. A child might try to solve a problem one way and not be able to think of another solution or be resistant to suggestions about another strategy. They tend to follow rules by rote, taking things literally and do not see the "shades of gray."
Sensory integration difficulties are common in AS. This is a large set of symptoms but typically includes tactile defensiveness (strong dislike for certain textures, touch), reactivity to sound, environmental overstimulation, and visual-perceptual difficulties.
Attentional problems are common among children with AS, and in fact, many children with AS are first diagnosed with ADHD and later with AS. Attentional difficulties include inattention, distractibility, impulsiveness, hyperactivity, and difficulties with executive functioning (planning and organizing).
Oppositional behaviors are sometimes seen in children with AS. The oppositional behavior often stems from social deficits, rigidity and sensory problems, so that this behavior is sometimes dealt with indirectly.
High IQ or "splinter skills," and learning difficulties are other characteristic seen in AS children. Above average to gifted IQ is common, and AS children often display "splinter skills" such as unusually good memory, a giftedness in one academic area, musical giftedness or the like. In the other hand, despite average to high IQ, many AS children have difficulties learning for a variety of reasons, including attention, rigidity, and specific learning disability. A subset of children with AS also have a learning disability called Nonverbal Learning Disorder. While many of it’s symptoms are identical to AS, it includes a specific disability in learning math.
Mood instability and mood disorders also tend to affect children with AS. While anxiety and depression are most common, there is also a subset of children dually diagnosed with AS and Bipolar Disorder.
The above is an introduction to the Syndrome known as Asperger’s. If you would like to learn more, we encourage you to read Tony Atwood’s book, "Asperger’s Syndrome," available from RPCS’s lending library, or access his website at www.tonyattwood.com.au/. You can also browse the OASIS website at http://www.udel.edu/bkirby/asperger/ .
Dr. Wagner is the owner of RPCS and specializes in evaluating and treating children with AS, with 18 years experience working with children with autistic spectrum disorder. She has given talks and trainings locally on defining AS and working with AS children. Dr. Wagner is also the parent of a child with AS.
By Jolynn-Marie Wagner, Ph.D.
The role of the psychologist in any type of psychological testing is to be an objective and unbiased evaluator. For this reason, an evaluating psychologist cannot be that client’s therapist nor have any other type of relationship with the client that may impair his or her objectivity. While a treating psychologist may do some testing in order to gain more knowledge about a client to better design a treatment plan, treating psychologists generally do not undertake full evaluations of their therapy clients.
The purpose of the testing and evaluation is dependent on the referral questions. Most frequently, evaluations are conducted to determine a client’s overall level of psychological functioning or to make or rule out a specific diagnosis. The types of diagnoses that are evaluated may include: learning or developmental disorders, attentional disorders, cognitive impairments, mental disorders such as depression, anxiety, post traumatic stress disorder, personality disorders, etc. Use of normed tests, such as an IQ test or a normed personality test, give the evaluator information about how the client performs on a particular test compared to age, and sometimes gender peers. However, an evaluator also gathers information from other sources who know the client, from the client herself, and evaluates based on clinical experience.
There are numerous types of tests and measures that psychologists use to conduct evaluations. However, the different tests can be broken down into general categories by types of skill or ability the tests are meant to measure. These categories would include: tests that measure broad, cognitive abilities (intelligence tests and similar cognitive test batteries), tests of academic achievement, tests of specific language skill, tests of motor skill, tests of visual-perceptual skill, tests of social-emotional skill and personality testing, tests of adaptive behavior, and tests of specific brain functioning, or neuropsychological functioning. Most evaluation with include an IQ and academic achievement test, and other tests used depend on the referral question. With adolescents and adults, personality tests are often also used.
Another type of measure that is typically used with children are checklists. Parents, teachers, and/or daycare providers are often asked to complete behavioral checklists in order to provide information about the child to the psychologist. Children 11 years old and older often complete their own checklist as well.
Psychological assessment is not limited to use of formal tests by the psychologist, and a client’s scores on psychological tests must be interpreted within the context of the client’s history and current situation. For this reason, evaluations also include interviews with the client and parent (if the client is a child), structured and unstructured observations of the client, observation of parent-child interaction, and questionnaires and rating scales completed by the client and/or parent, teachers, and caregivers.
Common Names and Frames: As in any area, there are common names and "lingo" used in the testing field. Most commonly used IQ tests are the Wechsler series, which includes the WPPSI (Wechsler Preschool and Primary Scale of Intelligence), WISC (Wechsler Intelligence Scale for Children), and the WAIS (Wechsler Adult Intelligence Scale). Used less often, you may hear of the Stanford-Binet or the Bayler Scales. If you or your child takes an academic achievement test, you may hear about the WIAT (Wechsler Individual Achievement Test), the WRAT (Wide range Achievement test), or the Woodcock-Johnson. All three are commonly used to measure academic achievement.
When talking about testing, you may hear a psychologist mention norms, the mean, standard deviation, or significant differences between scores. When a test is normed, it means that a large study sample took the test and the test developer calculated the norms for the test, including the mean, or average, and the standard deviation, or how much variability in scores occurred within the test sample. For example, on the Wechsler series IQ test, the mean is 100 and the standard deviation is 15. That means that while most people tend to score about 100 on the test, scores from 85 to 115 are within one standard deviation, or within normal limits. When a psychologist talks about a test scores being "statistically different," they mean that the difference in scores are more likely caused by true differences in the individual’s abilities than by chance.
The specific scores that a client receives are only a sample of the client’s skill or behavior that is part of a wider range of skills and behaviors that the client actually possesses. Test scores are also dependent on the client’s motivation and cooperation. Further, a client may score differently on a different test or with a different examiner due to differences in tests and/or examiners, or fluctuations in conditions such as environment, fatigue, or stress. Finally, specific diagnosis cannot be guaranteed and sometimes no diagnosis is made. Often, the client is being evaluated to rule out a specific problem or diagnosis.
Feedback is given to the client and/or parents verbally after the evaluation is completed. Feedback sessions should include the evaluator’s impressions, how he/she reached that impression, and the evaluator’s recommendations for the client, such as certain treatments or referrals. Feedback can also be provided in a written report if desired by the client. Depending on the purpose of the report, the length of the report will vary and specific test scores may or may not be included in the test.
What is Play Therapy and How Can it Help My Child?
Play therapy is a form of expressive therapy designed to help a therapist gain insight into a child’s thoughts and feelings through children’s primary means of communication, which is play. Play is a powerful way that children express their feelings. Play therapy facilitates social, emotional, and behavioral growth and change in children with a wide range of emotional or developmental challenges.
A skilled play therapist is aware of developmental stages and provides a variety of materials that appeal to children of different ages. In general, children ages 2 to 5 years engage in symbolic play. For example, they may make a cookies out of clay, pretend to be a knight who rescues people, set up a scene in the sand with miniature figures, or act out family scenes in the dollhouse. A special type of play seen in abused and neglected children is posttraumatic play, where the traumatic scene is often played out again and again until the child gains mastery over the event with intervention by the play therapist. Children older than 5 years use symbolic play, but also engage in cooperative play, such as board games. Different expressive activities in play therapy include symbolic play, art, sandplay, role playing, and storytelling. Movement, music, animal companions, and other specialty therapy modalities may also be part of play therapy.
Types of Play Therapy: Two types of play therapy are used at Redwood Psychological. Non-directive therapy involves allowing the child to explore the play therapy room and gravitate to an activity, toy, or game that interests him or her. The therapist’s role is to listen, observe, and note the symbolic actions of the play and use factual commenting, such as, "I see you have chosen to feed the doll baby today," or to ask questions. The therapist remains supportive, but non-intrusive, allowing the child to lead. Directive therapy involves the therapist taking an active role in the play and structuring the session for assessment, diagnostic, and treatment purposes. The therapist may ask the child to draw themselves or their family or suggest an interactive game with a child who has difficulty getting along with others. Directive activities may also be used to lend closure to a particularly challenging session where a lot of emotional work has occurred.
There are many types of therapeutic techniques that might be part of play therapy. Expressive Arts play therapy involves use of materials and activities such as sand tray therapy, various types of art therapy, or story telling. Attachment-based play therapy and techniques such as "Theraplay" emphasize the relationship between the child and parent and works with specific techniques to enhance that relationship. Cognitive behavioral play therapy works to change thoughts and behaviors directly. With young children, this may be as simple as identifying and verbalizing emotions or as sophisticated as using a behavioral program to change a child’s behavior.
Therapy Room: Play therapy rooms are specially set up to be safe, nurturing, and therapeutic. Toys, activities and materials are carefully chosen to encourage expression of feelings and to facilitate the symbolic enactment of difficulty children may be experiencing. Some things you will find in our therapy rooms include sand, toy figures, art and craft materials, dolls and "house" materials, dress-up materials, building toys, and games. At Redwood Psychological, we believe a natural model is most therapeutic, so that our materials are natural wood, wool, cotton, etc. Also, toys are picked specifically for thier therapeutic value.
How are Parents Involved in Play Therapy? Parent involvement in play therapy varies from family to family, depending on the child and family needs. Parents spend part of the session with the child and therapist, and then the therapist spends the remainder of the session alone with the child. Some children spend most of their sessions alone with the therapist. In any case, your child’s therapist will discuss your child’s goals and progress in treatment with you regularly. You are also asked to provide input to the therapist as to how your child is doing at home and school. Usually, you will meet alone with the therapist from time to time to discuss ways that you can support your child’s therapy at home.
Whole Child Healing: A Holistic and Integrative Approach to Healing
By Jolynn-Marie Wagner, Ph.D.
My philosophy of therapy is that healing happens at home, in the family, and that my job is to facilitate, provide ideas, help, and feedback. My approach is holistic, addressing all aspects of the child, emotional/social, physical, and spiritual, and his or her environment.
"Everybody today seems to be in such a terrible rush, anxious for greater developments and greater riches and so on, so that children have very little time for their parents. Parents have very little time for each other, and in the home begins the disruption of peace of the world." - Mother Teresa
Modern American Society – It is not a new concept that the unfolding of modern American society has brought with it many ills. When once the family unit was primary in our social structure and support, families are now often fragmented by divorce, physical distance or multigenerational mental health issues. Our pace of life has become extremely fast, we are often overscheduled, and we have little time for rest, sleep, recreation, and quiet family time. Our jobs have moved indoors to small desks in front of computer screens. The urbanization of our country has taken away our country sides and wild areas. Shopping and consuming have replaced many social interactions. Television, computers and video games have replaced much of children's natural play.
All of these factors cause stress and in turn can cause physical ailments, depression, anxiety, and social, behavioral and school problems.
My approach is to address not only symptoms and their causes but to address the holistic aspect of the child in her environment, including helping families to strengthen bonds and create a healthy family and community environment.
Some of the ways this is accomplished is to help the family prioritize, slow down, simplify their lifestyle have reasonable expectations for both parent and child, and to best match the home and work/school environment to the child and family. Therapy with the child can involve play, expressive therapies, relaxation and integrative movement. What is learned in therapy is applied at home, community and school/work.
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Article Courtesy of The Sun sentinel Published September 2, 2007 The two therapists do their rounds in fur coats. Therapy dogs have been seen in care facilities for decades, a natural offshoot of the service animals that guide the blind and fetch for the disabled. But cats? Persnickety, unpredictable, do-it-my-way cats? The cats now are a popular fixture at the center's nursing home, where they go every other week. The Muntzes don't charge for their services. They even have participated in the Veterans Day parade there, riding in their decorated pet strollers. Things have gone equally well at North Ridge Medical Center in Fort Lauderdale, where the cats also visit twice monthly. How they helpThere are different terms for animals that provide companionship and assistance: |